Olivia Rowlatt

Sex and Relationship Therapist (COSRT Accredited)

Having a baby

How does having a baby change your life?

Having a baby alters the dynamics of your relationship.As a couple you only have each other to be concerned about.

Suddenly you have a vulnerable little person who will be with you for the next 18 years.

Add in lack of sleep, and 24/7 demands from a new baby.

Overnight you become a family.

It takes time to accept and adjust to this new situation.

Couple counselling helps after a baby. Psychosexual therapy can help. A new baby brings much joy and excitement. The couple becomes a family. It is a big change. Mum and Dad sometimes feel neglected by each other. It helps to give each other attention. Try spending time together.  Make sure you have fun as a couple.

 After the baby…

Two becomes three. Often Mum concentrates on the baby, and Dad can feel pushed out. Sometimes Mum is overwhelmed, and it is Dad who connects strongly with the baby. A similar dynamic can occur in same sex relationships. The baby becomes the focus of attention for the family. It is important for the couple to find time for each other and their relationship.

With a small baby it can be hard to find time for your relationship. However, it is important to put creative energy into spending time with your partner. Make sure your relationship doesn’t suffer.

Be patient with yourselves as change takes time to assimilate!

This is one of the most common times for couples to seek professional help…

If things continue to be difficult between you and your partner couple counselling can help. Email or phone for help to get your relationship back on the right track.