Olivia Rowlatt

Sex and Relationship Therapist (COSRT Accredited)

Passionate relationship

Relationships require people to grow, mature and differentiate.

Dr David Schnarch talks about relationships as “people-growing machines.”

Relationships force people to ask the question:

Do I belong to you or do I belong to me?

Passionate relationship

Do you are feel as if you have fallen out of love with your partner? Was sex once great and now it is a disappointment? Schnarch suggests that this is a normal part of the relationship process.

Schnarch and the Nature of Relationships

  • Relationships, by their very nature, lead to gridlock and a reduction of passion. This is not the beginning of the end. It is when the relationship starts to get interesting.
  • It is overcoming the inherent frustrations of relationships that leads to a deepening of passion and intimacy over time.
  • Relationships require individuals to become more self-aware and self-sufficient. This leads to increased ability to see the other clearly.

The following abilities help create a long-term passionate relationship:

  1. Being able to validate yourself
  2. Having ways to regulating anxiety
  3. Avoiding being over-reactive
  4. Being able to tolerate painful growth

To find out more try reading Intimacy and Desire by Dr. Schnarch.

To explore issues with passion and desire in your relationship, if you want a passionate relationship, email or call me on 07927 026 299 or 01225 975 166.